Preferenes?

So a Black girlfriend (I say her race for a reason) of mine and I were hanging out along with the President of the Movement and we were having “girl talk”.

The topic of her dating came up.

I asked her as beautiful as she is, why is she having a hard time and what does she think it is?

She stated that "most Black men don't want women that look like me, but rather Spanish girls like you all with the long pretty hair, straighter nose, etc".

Now we were a bit uncomfortable because we don't see ourselves that way. Nor do we think this to be true. As a Latina, as well as a Black woman, it is bothersome to know that Black women feel this way; is this the consensus or just one woman’s experience? Are Black men doing this on purpose and if so why? Is it a preference or once again subconscious selection due to social acceptance to things that are closer to White?

This would then be creating a larger division between Black and Latina women if Latinas are being seen as the first selection or, as some have called, "the new white girl".

As we strive for unity, not only racial/ethnic between Black and Latino but as women, how can we move forward if this is the stigma within the community?